This is a difficult subject to write about as opinions are really divided over the whole issue of feeding and gaining weight, some feel that feeding is a form of abuse and that gaining is a form of self harm, others feel that it's about celebrating food, sharing the experience of eating as something that is an extension of love and sex, and that gaining weight is about achieving a size and body shape that is personally desirable and satisfying.

So lets start with gaining weight.....from a medical perspective, unless you are underweight, gaining weight is going to negatively impact on your health and increase your risk of high blood pressure (hypertension), diabetes, arthitis, stroke and coronary heart disease...so there are the risks....

If you do want to gain weight, then it's worth thinking about why you want to gain weight, is it about being fatter? or being stronger? being bigger? is it because this is something that you have control over? is it a form of self harm because you don't feel you're worth being liked? (These are really difficult sentances for me to write but I think it is really important to put it out there, many of us have really fucked up relationships with food and if you're actively going to gain weight it's worth spending some quality 'Me' time working out why).

If you want to be stronger, or bigger, then would you be better building muscle than fat?

If you do want to be fatter, then it's a difficult one, there's isn't a healthy way to gain fat if you are already over-weight but you can invest time in taking exercise and making sure you're heart and your health is a good as it can get.

So now we've got that out of the way, lets talk about Feeding and Feeders......now most of us at some time have combined sex and food, be it that tub of ice cream that ended up smeared and licked from hard nipples or honey drizzled from a height onto a hard cock.....but feeding is something slightly different....

Feeders are guys who get off on the experience of feeding their partners, this can be in the context of the sex or it can be just as part of normal meals, feeders might enjoy ordering food for their partners and indulging them in extra portions. The act of feeding is a way of showing their love as well as a sexual turn on. There's nothing wrong with feeding per-say but it needs to be consensual on both sides and that can be a challenge.

If you like someone, then it's hard to dissapoint them, and in your mind you might be weighing up refusing that extra portion of cake because you're quite happy with the size ou are, against upsetting a guy that you're really into.

On the other hand, being fed can be one of the most erotic and sensual experiences.....

So in terms of feeders and feeding, it's upto you where you feel comfortable.....if you do think your partners is a feeder then talk to him about it and ask him whether feeding you is a turn on for him....a good relationship is based on good communication...so have the chat and work out where you stand....